Self image issues. By:Brandee Darden.

                                  Self image issues. By: Brandee Darden. Friday, March 18th, 2022! 

Intro to my blog!! 

Hello, my Shinning Star Butterflies! It's your blogger queen, Brandee Darden here with another blog episode for today! Happy Friday or in other countries, Happy Saturday! I hope everyone is doing well and amazing! If not, that's okay! Everything will be okay! You have to stay strong for yourself because if you feel strong for yourself, it shows people that you can do it and that you can get through it! On Wednesday's blog episode, I talked about the makeup looks that I will do for spring time. Picking out makeup looks that I will do for spring time can be a little tricky at times but it can be fun as well because picking out beautiful makeup looks is so fun and so amazing! I love doing it!! On today's blog episode, I will be talking about self image issues. I will be talking about before loving myself and accepting myself for who I am, how did I handle finding clothes that fit me or look good on me? Why did I handle finding clothing that fit me or look good on me? How long did it take for me to get over my self image? Why did it take along time to get over over myself image? If I have any advice to anyone who is struggling with self image or feeling less confident within themselves, what is my advice? Why would I give anyone that advice? Now, let's get started with this blog! Shall we? We shall!! 

Talking about self image in the fashion industry and why do I think self image can affect some models when it comes to their body?  

In the fashion industry, models can get discriminated because of not having a good body! Some people think some of us can have a size "0" body but not everyone can't. Not every body is perfect! Some agencies want every model to be skinny and that's not right. The agencies want every model to eat right and exercise. We can't control what our body looks like. We all can't be a size "0". When it comes to self image, every model needs to look a certain way and it can affect a way that person can look at themselves. It is not just models. It is also everyday people as well. Sometimes, I can look in the mirror and say to myself "UGH, I hate the way my body looks today! My body looks awful". Not everybody's body is perfect! We don't have a perfect body!! Why do I think self image can affect some models when it comes to their body? I think self image can affect some models or everyday normal people when it comes their body is because society paints a perfect picture in our minds and they expect for every female or male to have a perfect body and we have to be beautiful or handsome, but guess what? Not everyone is perfect! Our body is our body and if no one doesn't like our body, oh well! Some guys like skinny girls and that's okay! I know there is some guys who like plus size girls and that's awesome. Not every guy or girl is perfect! Our body isn't perfect and  that's okay! We are meant to stand out from society not blend in! It's okay to be different! We can eat whatever we want. Don't let anyone discriminate you! You be your own kind of person! 

Before loving myself and accepting myself for who I am, how did I handle finding clothes that fit me or look good on me? Why did I handle finding clothing that fit me or look good on me? 

Before loving myself and accepting myself for who I am, how did I handle finding clothes that fit me or look on me? The way I handle finding clothes that fit or look good on me is when I go to clothing stores, I always got in my head and thinking to myself "Nothing isn't going to look good on me" and at times, I get discouraged. When I do find something cute, they either don't have it in my size or it is expensive. Finding clothes that fit me or that looks good on me is hard! It is really hard because me being a plus size girl, it is hard to find clothes that fit me because some clothes are made differently for everyone and sometimes, I get discouraged but I move on from it and learn to accept it! Why did I handle finding clothing that fit me or look good on me? The reason why I handled finding clothing that fit me or look good on me like that is because I get into my head and I will think to myself "I am not going to look good in this. I will feel ugly in this" or if I don't find anything in my size, I will get discourage but I will tell myself "that's okay. They might get more in your size. That's okay." Sometimes, I have a hard time walking into clothing stores and I will find something cute but I don't think it will look good on me or I will try it on and I think to myself "I feel ugly in it", but in reality, I know that I look good in it but I don't want to believe it because my brain wants to believe something completely different. Don't let your brain win! Let your heart win because everyone looks good in anything they wear. Believe in yourself that you look good and that it's okay to be who you are! 

How long did it take for me to get over myself image? Why did it take along time to get over myself image? 

How long did it take for me to get over myself image? Well to tell my Shinning Star Butterflies the truth, it took me a long time to get over myself image issues. I still struggled with myself image at times because I feel like I get into my head a lot and I think to myself "Anything isn't going to look good on you" or "I feel ugly in this" and I get comments that are completely opposite. I know that I love myself and for who I am but it is so hard to understand my body and to feel confident in my own body! When I finally learned to love my body, I was happy because my body is my body and you are only going to get one body. That's it! Love your body for what it is! If you have stretch marks, embrace those stretch marks! I embrace my awesome stretch marks! I love my tiger marks a lot! Why did it take along time to get over myself image? The reason why it took me along time to get over myself image is because I had a hard time loving my body! When I was going through school, I was bullied because of my weight and I couldn't accept myself for who I was but now, I love for who I am and I am so proud of myself for learning how to love myself for who I am and for myself image. I think it is very important to love your body for what it is because you are going to get one body and that's it! Love your body the best way that you can and be happy in your body!! 

If I have any advice to anyone who is struggling with self image or feeling less confident within themselves, what is my advice? Why would I give anyone that advice? 

If I have any advice to anyone who is struggling with self image or feeling less confident within themselves, what is my advice? My advice is love yourself for who you are! The person that you are is absolutely amazing and the person that you are is absolutely beautiful or handsome. Don't never underestimate yourself! Walk this world like it is your runway! Love your body for what it is because your body is absolutely amazing! You only get one body and that's it! Love it for what it is! Your body is fine! Eat whatever you want! If you have stretch marks, embrace them and love them for what they are! Call your stretch marks "your tiger marks" because tiger marks is a cooler name and I like my tiger marks. Be proud of your body and be confident within yourself! Everyone is amazing in their own way and never forget that! Why would I give anyone that advice? The reason why I would I give someone this advice is because everyone is amazing the way they are! No one is ugly! Society may think you are not beautiful or handsome but no one isn't ugly! Everyone is unique in their own way! Everyone has a different way of loving themselves and that's okay! It's okay to be hard on yourself but don't give yourself a hard time because you are an amazing person and you should always love your body for what it is because your body is amazing! I mean yes, you get acne on your face or someone makes fun of you because you either overweight or underweight and if that person bullies you, let them. Brush them off like they are nothing! They are just trash that you want to throw away and burn it! Be proud of who you are!! 

In conclusion/ Tip of the day/ Challenge of the day! 

In conclusion, loving yourself for who you are especially your body! It took me to love myself for who I was and for who I am including my body, but I learned to accept it because my stretch marks aren't going anywhere and I love my tiger spots. They make me who I am and I wouldn't trade them for the world. I am proud of my body and I will always be proud of my body! I will never stop loving my body because my body is amazing! Here is my tip and challenge of the day!! My tip of the day is love yourself for who you are because you are going to get one body and you should love and respect your body for what it is because it is your body! If you have tiger spots aka stretch marks, embrace them and be proud of them! Be happy to have them because they make you for who you are! My challenge of the day is start accepting your body and start loving it because your body is amazing! You are amazing! Everyone is beautiful or handsome in their own way and never forget that! Don't let your brain win! Let your heart win instead! Own this world like it is your runway! Be proud of who you are and challenge yourself! You got this and I believe in my Shinning Star Butterflies! Y'all got this! Never stop loving yourself! Have self respect for yourself! 

Alright, my Shinning Star Butterflies! Y'all have reached the end of today's blog episode! I hope y'all enjoyed today's blog episode and I hope y'all will accept my challenge for today! Just know that it is okay to not have a perfect body! It's okay to not a size "0". Your body is amazing and be proud of your body! Always love your body and always treat your body with your respect! Always love yourself and always love your body! It's okay to not love your body at first but learn to accept it first and then, love your body! Everyone's body is amazing and it is made different! Don't do anything to your body! I hope everyone has an amazing weekend and I will see y'all on Monday! I love y'all and stay safe!! Stay Gold! Shine bright like a star that y'all are! Fly like a butterfly and chase your dreams! Happy Friday or in other countries, Happy Saturday and stay safe! I love y'all! Your blogger girl is out! Peace! 💚✌

"I'm not going 
to sacrifice my 
mental health  
to have the 
perfect body."
-Demi Lovato. I love this quote because I am going to sacrifice my mental health to have an amazing body when my body is already looking great and amazing! My body is my body and I am not going to change my body for anyone else!! It's not worth it! 

"To all the girls 
that think you're 
fat because you're 
not a size zero, 
you're the 
beautiful one.
It's society 
who's ugly."
-Marilyn Monroe. I love this quote so because this quote is so true! Everyone woman is beautiful and every guy is handsome in their own way! Stay true to who you are and don't listen to society!! 

"I definitely have body 
issues, but everybody does. When you come to the 
realization that everybody 
does that- even the people 
that I consider flawless- 
then you can start to live 
with the way you are."
-Taylor Swift. I love this quote a lot because everyone has body issues and everyone isn't perfect and that's okay! You have to live your life how you want to. Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life!! 

Here are some outfits that make me really confident! I love these outfits a lot!!




 

For this week's song of the week, it is "Love myself" by BTS. The reason why I chose this song as the song for the week is because when I listened to this song back in 2019, I realized that I need to love myself more and not give myself fake love that I don't deserve. This song means a lot to me and I hope it means a lot to my Shinning Star Butterflies as well. I love y'all so much!